Bdsm Cane – How to Use A Cane


What is a cane in Bdsm?

In BDSM, a cane is a thin, flexible implement that is typically used for striking the body, most commonly the buttocks.

Canes can be made from a variety of materials, such as wood, plastic, or metal, and can have different levels of flexibility depending on the intended use.

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The use of a cane can be for impact play, sensation play or punishment.  The submissive/sissy or sub will experience a range of sensations from pain to pleasure.

When using the cane  it can be used as a form of impact play, where it is used to strike the body for pleasure or punishment.

This implement can be dangerous to use if not done properly,  so it is always important to be aware of the different parts of the body that should be avoided when striking, such as the spine, head, and other sensitive areas.

To ensure safety, it is recommended to start with light taps and gradually increase the intensity, and also stay aware of the body language of the person receiving the impact to ensure they are comfortable.

Always use the proper technique to avoid injury. Many people recommend holding the cane at the bottom, with your hand close to the end to have the most control. This will give you better accuracy and control over it, helping to reduce the risk of injury.

Keep in mind that, if you are new to using a cane it is best to start with a lightweight cane, such as a rattan cane, as these are less likely to cause injury and allow you to learn the proper technique before progressing to heavier canes.

After each session, you should check the skin, any sign of a mark or a bruise should be taken seriously if it’s severe or not healing, seek medical assistance.

The learning curve when it comes to using a cane or any other implement is that It’s important to start slowly, to understand the sensation, the technique, and the dynamics of the activity.

One way to learn more about using it is to take a class or workshop. These classes are often led by experienced mistresses who can demonstrate proper techniques, answer questions, and provide guidance.

They can also provide a safe and controlled environment to try out the different activities.

There are also many different types of canes with each one giving out a different sensation.

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Some common types of canes include rattan canes, which are lightweight and flexible; plastic canes, which are more rigid and provide a sharper sensation; and metal canes, which can be very heavy and provide a very intense sensation.

You should experiment with different types of canes to find what works best for you and your submissive. 

It’s also important to know that for many people, the use of a cane can be an intense, intimate experience that can create a deep emotional connection between Dom/sub. As such, it’s important to approach this activity with care, respect, and trust.

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Using a cane can be a pleasurable and satisfying activity when done with care and respect. It’s important to establish clear boundaries and limits, and prioritize safety at all times.

Here is a list of guidelines to follow when using the Cane

Understand the different parts of the body that should be avoided when striking, such as the spine, head, and other sensitive areas.

Start with light taps and gradually increase the intensity of the impact, and be aware of the body language of the person receiving the impact to ensure they are comfortable.

Use the proper technique to avoid injury, hold the cane at the bottom, with your hand close to the end for best control and accuracy.

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Start with a lightweight cane, such as a rattan cane, as these are less likely to cause injury, and allow you to learn the proper technique before progressing to heavier canes.

Have a safe word or phrase established before the activity begins, to signal when one wants the activity to stop.

Communicate openly with your partner throughout the session, to express needs and wants.

Check on the skin after the session,  to see if there is any sign of a mark or bruise.

Respect your partner’s boundaries and choices.

All activities should be consensual and should never be used for non-consensual activities or for situations where the other party is not capable of giving consent.

Approach this activity with care, respect, and trust.

Seek advice from other Pro domes before experimenting with any BDSM activity.

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Always prioritize safety and well-being.

 BDSM should be done with respect, honesty and trust, and it should never harm or damage one’s physical or mental well-being.

Take a class or workshop led by experienced Dominatrixes who can demonstrate proper technique, answer questions, and provide guidance.

Experiment with different types of canes, such as rattan canes, plastic canes, and metal canes, to find what works best for you and your partner.

Ensure you communicate throughout the caning session

Remember that the use of a cane can be an intense, intimate experience, so approach it with care and consideration.

Before during and after use it’s good to make sure that the implement is cleaned and sanitized, also checks on it for any damage that could cause further injury

Be mindful of aftercare, not just physical but also emotional, have a plan in place and have an open conversation with your partner to see how they are feeling after the session.

Remember that these types of activities can be an enjoyable and consensual form of exploration and expression of desires and boundaries, but it’s important to educate yourself about the proper techniques, safety measures, and risks before engaging in any activity.

Try different styles of striking, there are different ways to hold the cane, different types of strikes, and different areas of the body to target, which can provide a different sensation and experience.

Always check in with the person you are caning  to ensure they are still happy to carry on

You can also incorporate BDSM activities into your roleplay or fantasy scenarios, it’s not only physical but also mentally stimulating, adding a new dynamic to your sexual experiences.

Remember it can be a fun and exciting way to explore your own desires and express yourself, but it should never be used to harm or exploit others.

Remember to use the appropriate level of force when striking with the cane, as excessive force can cause serious injury.

It is important to check for any allergies or sensitivities before using any type of implement, not just canes, some people may have allergic reactions to certain materials like wood or plastic.

These activities should be a mutually enjoyable experience, if at any point during the session, one of the parties feels uncomfortable, the activity should be stopped immediately.

 BDSM activities can be a form of self-expression and personal growth, but it’s important to be aware of your own limitations and not push yourself too hard. Take your time and build up to more intense activities gradually.

Seek out resources, such as books, articles, websites or professional BDSM Mistresses to learn more about BDSM and its various aspects, including impact play and the use of canes. The more knowledge and education you have the better prepared you will be to engage in these activities safely and responsibly.

 like any sexual or intimate activity, is a personal preference and it’s important to be true to yourself and your own desires. Don’t feel pressured to engage in activities you are not comfortable with.

 BDSM activities should be performed in a controlled and safe environment, with proper equipment, tools and implement that are fit for purpose, and regularly checked for wear and tear or any other issues that could cause injury.

Activities can include different forms of impact play, not only cane, such as flogging, spanking, and paddling, it is important to learn about each one and understand the sensation and level of intensity that it can provide.

It can also include different forms of control, such as bondage, submission, and domination, that can be integrated with impact play, it is important to understand the dynamics of these activities and the role of each person involved in them.

These types of sessions can be emotional and psychological, it’s important to be aware of the mental state and emotional needs of the submissives and it’s important to make sure that everyone is comfortable with the activity and that no one is feeling overwhelmed or stressed.

Remember that BDSM activities are not just about physical pleasure but also can be a way to explore one’s own desires and boundaries, and to create a deeper emotional connection with a partner.

It is a personal preference and can be practised in different levels of intensity and frequency, and that’s why it’s essential to communicate and establish clear boundaries and limits with a partner.

How to hold a cane?

There are several ways to hold a cane when using it in BDSM, but a common and recommended way is to hold the cane at the bottom, with your hand close to the end for the best control and accuracy.

This allows for greater control and reduces the risk of injury.

Here is a step-by-step guide on how to hold a cane:

Hold the cane in your dominant hand, with your hand positioned at the bottom of the cane.

Grasp the cane firmly, but not tightly, with your fingers wrapped around the cane.

Position your thumb on the top of the cane, this will help with stability and control.

Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, with one foot slightly forward. This will give you a stable base and good balance.

Keep your elbow slightly bent and your arm extended, this will give you more control and power when striking.

Practice striking with your cane in a safe environment, and make sure to strike in areas where the body is well-padded, such as the buttocks or thighs.

Keep in mind the sensation and level of intensity that the cane can provide, and start with light taps and gradually increase the intensity.

Remember to use the appropriate level of force when striking, as excessive force can cause serious injury.

Pay attention to your grip and adjust if needed, you should be able to hold the cane firmly and control it with ease, without feeling any discomfort or strain in your hand or wrist.

There are different types of canes and each one has its own characteristics, like weight, flex, and material. Experimenting with different types will give you a better understanding of the sensation each one provides, and help you find the one that you are most comfortable with.

You can also vary the way you hold the cane depending on the area you are striking, the sensation you want to create or the angle you want to use.

Keep your body relaxed and make sure your stance is comfortable, this will allow for smooth and controlled strikes.

Your grip and stance can also affect the impact and sensation of the strike, so practice different holds and stances to find what works best for you and your partner.

Your grip and stance can change depending on the position of the person you are striking, so always be aware of their position and adjust your grip and stance accordingly.

Best Canes to buy for Beginners

Rattan: The Rattan canes are made from a type of tropical vine and are lightweight and flexible. They provide a thuddy sensation and are less likely to cause injury.

Plastic  These canes are made from a type of plastic and are more rigid than rattan canes. They provide a sharper sensation than rattan canes and are easy to clean.

Rubber: The Rubber canes are made from rubber and are thicker and more flexible than plastic canes. They have a softer sensation than plastic canes and are less likely to cause injury.

Bamboo: Bamboo canes are made from bamboo, they’re lightweight and durable, and they provide a thuddy sensation.

It’s worth noting that each individual has their own preferences and what works for one person may not work for another, so it’s always good to experiment with different types of canes to find the one that’s right for you.

It’s always good to ask another professional Dominatrix/Mistress to show you how to hold the cane and what is the best way to strike before experimenting on your own.

And it’s important to remember that safety should always be the top priority when engaging in BDSM activities, including the use of a cane.